OK, It's done...
This article is for everyone with a train where the headlights/taillights are out of reach of the Decoder... The only drawback is that the lights are fixed in one direction.
Here's the link to my blog post on DCC Directional Lighting without a Decoder
So, there is a little component known as a Bridge Rectifying Diode.. it actually consists of 4 Diodes and converts AC to DC voltage. This is used in my construction to convert the AC track voltage to DC voltage to power the head/tail lights.
The wiring is reversed on the DC side of the rectifier for the trailing car to provide the reversed polarity to run the light-board correctly.
This means that the cars are fixed to be a leading/trailing car... and that means you should manually switch them around to run in the opposite direction... but for the mean-time where you don't want to fork out for decoders on either end, it's a feasible option.
Enjoy ;)
The Rectifier installed...

Test run of headlights...

Reverse wiring...

Both done...

And there we have it... now I have no nasty buzzzzzing sounds... no worries about what the effects of AC has on the lighting boards... and proper single-direction lighting!